Diplomacy and Tact Day Two
I would be lying, as I sit here in the parking lot of the hotel, if I said that this class was a waste of time. In fact, yesterday in one page, I found the solution to all of my personality problems out to four decimel places. It sat there in the page and stared at me with a smug expression on its face.
I don't find this surprising at all. I have noticed that it is human nature to want to tell someone what is wrong with them. People tell themselves they are doing it to be helpful to their fellow man, but this a lie. A lie to them, a lie to the world, and a lie to yourself. Many self help groups make a fortune on the lie. They, tell you what is wrong with you, but more importantly, they teach you how to spot it in others. You come away feeling great about yourself, you go to all of your friends and you tell them what you see in them, (its for your own good of course). And you tell them that if they take that same self help class, they can get fixed too. And thus the virus spreads because the self help group knew the dirty little secret, which is this, people want to tell you what is wrong with you and how to fix it, not for the reason they tell themselves (they want to be alturistic and help you) but because telling you what is wrong with you makes them feel better about themselves. "I'm not perfect, but if I can make you less perfect I can get closer to the top".
I have also noticed that it is human nature to give anything, even a page in a book, human qualities. Once this class is over I will wipe that smug expression off of my book I swear to you all.
Class is good, it isn't a self-help class. The instructor isn't here to tell us what is wrong with us, she is simply giving us tools we can use to deal with people we meet who are the ones with the problems. Hmm...maybe my lack of tact is not my problem, but an indication that everyone else takes things way too seriously. Put that in your crack pipe and smoke it you politically correct dumbasses! Note: no offence was intended to people who smoke crack or the other crack heads known as politically correct.
I am in class...
So in class we are talking about the S-E-L-F Profile, a short verson of the test is at the bottom of this page. I took the complete test. I'm an "E". This profile method is absolutely amazing. I recommend everyone I know take this profile. A funny related to be taking this profile and learning that I am an "E", is one of the bullets about my personality type. "Remember: Most people don't think like you. Stay alert to that fact. Human factors are important- it's humans, ultimately, who do the work. Stay Tollerent." I almost pissed myself laughing at the abserd but absolute truth to this statement. Rob is an "S". In a nutshell, I would say to Rob, "You. Shut the F__K up!" Rob and I got a huge laugh when we realized that I as an "E" behave exactly as expected when faced with an "S". Yet as my heterosexual lifemate, we make it work. I see everything as bullet points. I expect you to give me the ball and let me run with it. I don't want fluffy bunny fru-fru talk. I don't want details. This is the task that needs to be done, I will do it.
Now get out of my office.
