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October 17, 2007

Mutts For Moms: Ripping off the rich, making children cry

In case you have been under a rock for the past couple of days this is worth reading. Essentially, the talk show host Ellen DeGeneres adopted a little doggie. She likes animals and forked out three grand for this little pooch that looks less than ten pounds total. So essentially she paid $300 per pound for a stray. Those that can, will while the rest of us adopt from cheaper sources.

Ellen forked out the cash and she got a dog. The dog didn't play well with their cats, so rather than dump the dog somewhere found a good home with someone she trusted. The mob front Mutts for Moms, said "No dice, you paid to keep the dog, if you want your friend to keep the dog they are going to have to pay, and since you are famous, you all should have to pay a lot.
Ellen cried, the children cried, the viewers at home cried, and I got pissed off with tears. It is my opinion that these so called "pet rescuers" need some rescuing themselves.

October 11, 2007

Fall is Finally Near

I noticed that Fall is coming today. Sure there is a little chill in the air, and the leaves are turning, but these are not the only signs. You see the stores start getting their Christmas stuff out in September, that's a sign for sure, but not the one I'm thinking about.

Yes, when Fall is upon us it is that weird wonderful time of year that you see, sweaters, sweatshirts, jackets, and the first scarves...worn with shorts and sandals.

Spring is as odd only sometimes in reverse. In early spring you can see snow boots, thick socks, and pants with t-shirts or tank tops as well. I generally don't see that in the Fall.

People aren't like trees I guess. Trees all leave at once, both coming and going. People for the most part start at one end and work towards the other. I don't know why, I just noticed it and thought I would share. Plus I hadn't written anything lately, and needed a little filler to hopefully kick start me writing again.

October 4, 2007

Scene Highlights from the Play of Life

I enjoy more than most things sitting quietly, watching and listening to what people do and say. I often find it highly entertaining, and sometimes educational. I also learn daily just how little I understand about how people think. Take these gems...

I was listening to two women in their fifties talking about a relation of theirs who had gotten married. One said to the other, "You know, being a lawyer he's always very cool, and even tempered, and he has this really nice dry whit too. I was watching his wedding video and I saw him crying. Can you believe it? It so did my heart good to see him do that."

*blink* It was everything I could do not to ask them, "Ma'am, what pleasure other than sadistic pleasure are you getting from that? Is mom spit distilled from the tears of men or something?" But I held my tongue, anyone who enjoys watching men cry, doesn't need to be crossed without a plan.

I went outside to find a less sadistic crowd to hang with, and I found some uncles and my father. They were discussing clothing. One of my uncles, and I do love him dearly, was explaining that a man has to be buried in a suit. It doesn't matter that he didn't wear one in life, it doesn't matter that they are uncomfortable, if you are dead you are just decoration at the wake, and should be made to look good for the visitors.

I told him that if I were to be buried, I would want to be dressed in a loud Hawaiian print shirt. My thinking was that death was a journey, and the wake was a going away party, and I wanted to be dressed comfortable for traveling. He looked at me like I had suddenly started speaking in !kung to him or something.

I discovered that for him funerals meant all men were in suits, all women were formal, and all children were adorably formal (sailor suits all around). I have decided that since I am to be a pallbearer that I should probably report first thing to him at the funeral so I can make sure my outfit is up to snuff. I didn't ask him, he may be thinking I should wear some sort of tuxedo or something.

Which leads me wonder, if the reason the picture of him that was put in the paper and displayed at the wake taken in 1967 was chosen perhaps because that was the last time he ever wore a tie. If so, I'd better get my picture taken tomorrow!

The funny thing is that I know for a fact that the guest of honor hated suits, and you would be hard pressed to see him in one. However, I realize that as a pallbearer that the suit is a dress uniform. Of the pallbearer suits, I have been told two things, first that it didn't matter what color it was so long as it was a suit, and that it could be any color suit I had so long as it was black. Good thing I have three black suits. One modern one which I will not be wearing because it isn't the way they were made 40 years ago, one well fitting one that I am not going to wear because it is cheep and one of good quality that is too big. I'm wearing the big one. If anyone dares to say anything to me about my over sized jacket, I am going to ask if I should put all my weight back on real fast so it will fit better, and if so would they pay for the Krispy Kreme's and Bojangles. If nothing else, hey free donuts.

Because of the state of my late uncle's body the suit he owned wouldn't fit without being split up the back, so my aunt went out and bought him a new suit. The service is closed casket, so sadly no one will ever know if it looked good on him or not. I mentioned to my mother that I thought it was odd that he would be dressed in a new suit for a closed casket service. She told me that it was vital that the corpse was dressed nicely whether anyone saw it or not. Perhaps we're trying to impress the folks that put them in the casket and do the hair and makeup.

Speaking of, at the funeral parlor (they called themselves a mortuary, but we all know it was just a funeral parlor), some employees were talking within ear shot of me and I heard the following.
"Is tinker bell finished yet?" He mimed someone ringing a small bell. The other man replied, "Just finishing up the hair now." It seems to me, that if your reputation as a service is partially based on how well you make the deceased look you'd be a little kinder to the folks who actually make that happen. Because if the corpse doesn't look good, the undertakers don't look good.

So I know now, that tomorrow I need to dress fancy to please the guest not the guest of honor. I should let my hair just go so I'm not spoken harshly of by the undertakers, and under no circumstances should I let those old bitties see me shed a tear. Ever.

I'm in a very funny play called "Life"

I realized sitting in a chair watching the world unfold around me yesterday that I am in a play called, "Life" its one show only and its really very funny.

Let me tell you about a scene.

When I got the call to come home, I was dressed for work, business casual, same as I ever dress.

I load up, get home, come inside give my mother a hug and my dad a hearty handshake and mom says to me, "You're not going down there like that are you?"

I'm wearing a t-shirt, with a button down shirt over top of it, slacks and black leather shoes. I'm looking down at myself and I'm thinking that all of my outfits look like this, so if it isn't going to work, I'm screwed. So I finally ask her, "What's wrong with what I'm wearing?" It wasn't asked defensively, it was asked in mild shock, I was truly curious.

"Your hair?"
"My hair?" I had styled my hair with product the way I do every morning. I looked in the mirror and it was truly perfect.
"Mother, what exactly is wrong with my hair."

"Its sticking up." And she reached up and tried to flatten it, the way mother's do by licking their hands and pressing down. You know exactly what I'm talking about. If you are a mom, you've done it too. Otherwise, you have certainly been a victim of mom spit, universal solvent and wrinkle remover.

So after some work in the bathroom, I was deemed passable and I haven't been able to put product in my hair since. Mom says I look fine, but I feel...unfinished.

October 1, 2007

The difference between suicide

Last week I wrote this. It got several good responses and I learned that I am not always as clear as I wish I were. At any rate, Joel Gillespie challenged me with a good debate topic and I promised that I would have a response of some kind by Monday.

Here we are, and here it is.

I've got to admit, I was a little daunted by the subject matter and figured it would take all weekend to come up with anything. I did it on the car ride into class Saturday. It occurred to me that debates on "suicide" are always going to fall apart because the word is too broadly defined across the population.

I looked up the word in an online dictionary and the major definition is the taking, or intention of taking one's own life. I think this is a great definition and I doubt anyone would challenge it.

Oh, if only the world were so black and white. 90% of the time it is, but that last 10% of the time is a doozy. I'm not even talking about the chicken and egg scenarios like a guy who finds himself on death row when all the appeals have all run out, who hangs himself with his bed sheet. He killed himself. Suicide. No question, but if he was about to be killed anyway all he did was take control of the last thing he had any control over. Should I ever find myself on death row and all out of appeals, take my bed sheets if it is really important to you that the tax payers have to pay even more money to kill me. From my perspective, I've saved the tax payers some money and in my final act stuck it to the man. Its a win win.

Everything I just wrote, though true, was just a distraction designed to put you off balance before I talk about what I'm REALLY interested in.

I contend that the definition for suicide is correct but thanks to modern miracle and wonder, incomplete. It makes an assumption, that up to a very short time ago was a reasonable one. It assumes you were alive when you killed yourself. No, I am not drinking.

We are alive thanks to a number of very complex systems all working together to maintain our lives. During this lifetime we spend our existences doing things that put this delicate system in danger. We eat too many terrible for you foods, some of may have used cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, trans fats, breathed asbestos, touched mercury, and any number of other deadly chemicals. Some of us did physically dangerous activities. We all accept a certain amount of risk because at the end of the day most of us know that our brains are going to tell our hearts to beat and our lungs to breathe, and our mouths to eat, and our hands to avoid the fire, and our feet to avoid the ravenous copper headed water rattler.

We all know that when our heart stops beating, our brains stop sending or the signals don't reach their destinations, our livers stop cleaning our blood, our digestive systems stop breaking down food and elimination waste, or we can no longer draw a breath. We all know when these things happen, we are dead. Its a cascade failure scenario, something goes, and knocks down the next thing, which knocks down the next thing, and the house of cards falls. If it didn't we'd all be college age forever. (How much would that suck!)

But thanks to modern medicine, they have a machine for most every situation. Artificial hearts, iron lungs, dialysis, the list goes on, and all of these machines are true miracles of science. With them you can keep a brain thinking long after most every other system has said its long goodbye. But when did YOU die? There's the rub.

The knee jerk reaction is to say you are "alive" until the machines can no longer do the living for you. It might feel right, but is it true?

That same online dictionary defines life thus.

1. the condition that distinguishes organisms from inorganic objects and dead organisms, being manifested by growth through metabolism, reproduction, and the power of adaptation to environment through changes originating internally.
2. the sum of the distinguishing phenomena of organisms, esp. metabolism, growth, reproduction, and adaptation to environment.

I doubt anyone who agreed with the definition of suicide will disagree with the definition of life, or death for that matter.

1. the act of dying; the end of life; the total and permanent cessation of all the vital functions of an organism.

Again, no arguments, the assumption that everyone is going off of is the assumption that if you are alive, you are capable of maintaining life. Up until very recently this was a simple fact that no one would argue. But times have changed.

Now we can keep adding machines until there are no machines left to add. Its an interesting ethical quandary we've found the slippery slope and we're all screaming Weeeeee as we go. Every day someone comes up with either a new machine or an improvement on an old machine to eek out a few more cycles of something we aren't even sure what is.

So we have some new definitions of living to figure out.
You are no longer "living" when:
1. We run out of machines to hook you to.
2. You can no longer keep yourself that way without a machine.
3. You decide that you won't ever be able to maintain your own state of living without a machine.
4. You decide that you won't be able to be a productive member of society because of all of the machines in the way.

I think that the truth for you is inside of you and may change according to the situation. You'll say one thing again and again until you find yourself in that situation. Then you may or may not change your mind. There is no penalty for changing your mind. You might think to be interred is a penalty, but if the pain is bad enough, the penalty is to continue to hurt.

Thus the real debate is that there isn't one. Coffee, tea, or milk? Machine, machines, or au naturale?

It comes down to choice, and I say that choice is yours to make. My dear uncle made his choice back in April, and he's still with us. He eats with a machine, he poops with a machine, he breaths with a machine, his blood is cleaned with a machine, if you touch him, we will bleed, he is that fragile. But he lives because he says he does, or would if he could talk for the eating and breathing machines. Insurance has run out, Medicare has run out, the bank accounts have run out, and even the priest won't come to see him anymore. They're still pissed off that he chose to live in spite of them begging him to die back in June.

I for one am not sure which choice I'd make for myself, but it is my intent to be in heaven a day before the devil even knows I'm dead.




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